The University of Social Sciences and Humanities successfully organized Webinar #7 with the topic "Afraid of marriage - Modern trend?" in the Webinar series "Psychological and social support for the community"

With the participation of speaker Dr. Tran Thu Huong - Head of Social Psychology Department, Faculty of Psychology, University of Social Sciences and Humanities, and the guidance of MC - Pham Le Ngoc Lan, more than 100 audiences were able to explore issues surrounding the trend of "fear of marriage" among young people, and at the same time had their concerns and worries answered. In particular, the speaker also gave extremely useful advice to young people who are not ready to enter into a long-term committed relationship and marriage. Dr. Tran Thu Huong shared: choosing not to get married (not to) when you are in your 30s is completely normal. Moreover, young people need to prepare their mentality before entering into a serious, long-term committed relationship, especially marriage. Marriage is not just a wedding ceremony, but also a process of living together between two individuals, so preparing your mentality means preparing for seriousness and readiness to enter into marriage. When you have enough mentality and determination, it will be a solid foundation for you to rely on when your marriage encounters storms.

Especially, before loving others, we need to love ourselves, love our lives.A person who knows how to respect himself, who desires love, will know how to establish a suitable relationship with himself, and will be sensitive enough to recognize who is suitable for his own emotional world. It is like having skills that include attitudes and practical abilities, used for the purpose of establishing and building relationships. Emotionally, we should not force others to do what we do not want, especially with those we love. So, just be devoted to life and love, and when love reaches a certain stage, we will be ready to establish a family of our own..” - Dr. Tran Thu Huong said.

At the Webinar, a 27-year-old young woman expressed her concerns when her family urged her to marry her boyfriend but she herself was not ready both physically and mentally. Faced with this story, Dr. Tran Thu Huong shared the young woman's feelings when age becomes a pressure to get married. However, the speaker also emphasized that we should only get married when we realize that the other person is worthy in our life and we ourselves are truly ready, fully prepared mentally, physically, and materially, not because of external pressure.

Closing the program, the speaker gave useful advice to couples preparing to get married. She said that one of the criteria for assessing a person's social maturity is success in work, success in intimate and romantic relationships, and stability in social interactions in general. When you are preparing to get married, this means that you have found the other half who gives you enough trust, fills all your emotions, brings a sense of security, tolerance, understanding, and to some extent you are mature enough to enter marriage. The transition from love to the decision to get married is a very clear and transparent expression of your will, even in your emotions. And young people also need to realize that: Life after marriage is not only about romantic moments, but also understanding, caring for each other, responsibility for commitments of companionship, and cultivating common goals. Marriage is choosing a companion to accompany us, and continue to draw our own life dreams with us. It would be wonderful if our partner is also our soulmate, can live as ourselves, be respected for all aspects of our identity, and have someone willing to accompany us. And especially, companionship and commitment need to come from both sides.

Through the familiar, easy-to-understand but equally profound sharing of Dr. Tran Thu Huong, the audience attending Webinar #7 had the opportunity to learn more about the trend of “fear of marriage” among young people, thereby understanding themselves better and relieving many concerns and worries.

CIRSS’s “Psychosocial Support for the Community” webinar series will return with more engaging and interesting topics. Please continue to follow and accompany CIRSS on the journey to improve mental health, and spread many positive values ​​to the community!