Thesis information "Emotions of a first-time mother" by HVCH Tran Thi Phuong Thao, majoring in Psychology.1. Full name of student: Tran Thi Phuong Thao 2. Gender: Female 3. Date of birth: May 29, 1983 4. Place of birth: Tam Quan - Tam Dao - Vinh Phuc 5. Decision to recognize student No.: 2551/2007/QD-XHNV-KH&SDH dated November 2, 2007 by the President of the University of Social Sciences and Humanities, Vietnam National University, Hanoi 6. Changes during the training process: None 7. Thesis topic: Emotions of a mother giving birth for the first time 8. Major: Psychology; Code: 603180 9. Scientific supervisor: Dr. Truong Khanh Ha - Deputy Head of the Department of Psychology, University of Social Sciences and Humanities. 10. Summary of the results of the thesis: a. In terms of theory: The thesis has presented basic concepts of emotions, through documents clearly showing the psychological changes of mothers giving birth for the first time. Understanding some causes affecting the mother's emotions: The husband's care and attention during pregnancy; the child's physical characteristics; the mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship; the husband's care and sharing in raising children... b. In terms of practice: The first time giving birth, many problems arise, we study the emotions of mothers giving birth for the first time in some specific situations such as: The first time picking up the child; when the child is sick, has a poor appetite; When witnessing the first steps of the child's development for the first time (when the child learns to roll over, crawl, walk...); when the mother and child play together; when the mother is tired, stressed due to work; changes in the relationship with the mother-in-law; Changes in the relationship with the husband after having a child... In each situation, the mother has very different emotions, all experience basic human emotions: sadness, joy, happiness, happiness, anxiety, stress, fatigue. When falling into negative emotions, not every mother can easily overcome them, even those emotions dominate daily life, dominate the mother's thinking. Of course, these emotions will affect the family atmosphere in general and affect the comprehensive development of the child, especially in terms of the child's emotions. The specific results we have: - The first time receiving the child from the doctor, the first time holding the child in warm arms, seeing their "little angel" right in front of them, mothers cannot help but be overwhelmed with emotion, a happiness that is difficult to describe in words, these are emotional experiences that mothers have never had in their lives such wonderful moments. In particular, mothers who have had a hard time having this child, that feeling becomes even more wonderful and sublime. - The most worrying and upsetting thing for mothers is when their children are sick. This is the biggest concern of mothers, they always want their children to be healthy and not sick. A healthy child will become the joy and happiness of the mother. When the child is sick, with the boundless love and affection that the mother has for her child, they will inevitably be worried and sad. But how do they overcome that feeling? Most mothers are calm and confident in taking good care of their children in many different ways so that their children can quickly recover. They go to the doctor, ask for the experience of those who have gone before, read information on the media, and consult with friends and people around them. However, among mothers who fall into this situation, they become too stressed when they see their children sick, not knowing what to do, completely relying on others - relatives to take care of their children because they are confused about how to solve the problem. - In the relationship with the husband, there are many changes in two directions: the relationship between husband and wife becomes happier, closer or becomes more distant and bland than before. In the research results, it is shown that although they are happier, most of the conflicts and tensions between husband and wife after the birth of their first child increase compared to before. - In the relationship with mother-in-law: Changes, becomes more conflicted, the reason leading to this conflict is mainly due to disagreement in the way of raising children. There are conflicts that are easy to resolve, but there are conflicts that become quite stressful. Mothers always want their mothers to understand them, sympathize, share, and respect them more. In general, when giving birth for the first time, mothers are bewildered, their psychology changes, their emotions suddenly happy, suddenly sad, easily hurt, easily moved. Sometimes they become more patient, sometimes hot-tempered, sometimes mature, sometimes easily angry for no reason. But one thing all mothers share: After having children, they love, respect, and cherish their parents more, only then do they realize the great love and dedication that their parents have for them "only when you become a parent do you understand the love of your parents".
INFORMATION ON MASTER'S THESIS
1. Full name: Tran Thi Phuong Thao 2. Sex: Female 3. Date of birth: May 29, 1983 4. Place of birth: Tam Quan – Tam Dao – Vinh Phuc 5. Admission decision number: 2551/2007/QD-XHNV-KH&SDH dated November 2, 2007 by the Principal of University of Social Sciences and Humanities, VNU, Hanoi 6. Changes in academic process: Student of Faculty of Psychology - University of Social Sciences and Humanities, VNU Hanoi 7. Official thesis title: Mother's feelings in her first delivery 8. Major: Psychology 9. Code: 603180 10. Supervisors: PhD. Truong Khanh Ha – Vice Dean of Faculty of Psychology, University of Social Sciences and Humanities, VNU Hanoi 11. Summary of the findings of the thesis: a. On theoretical aspect, the thesis has provided basic concepts of feelings which clearly show psychological changes in a mother's feeling in her first delivery. Some causes affecting the mother's feelings are also found out, including: her husband's care during her pregnancy, physical features of the baby's body, relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, her husband's care and sharing in parenting, etc. b. On practical aspect, a number of problems occur during the mother's first delivery We have learned feelings of the mother during her first delivery in some specific situations such as, the first time to receive the baby; when the baby is sick or has anorexia; When seeing first steps of the baby's growth for the first time (as the baby knows how to roll over, crawl, walk, etc.); when the mother and the baby play together, when the mother feels tired or stressed due to her work; changes in the relationship with her mother-in-law; changes in the relationship with her husband after giving birth, etc. In each case, the mother has very different feelings and experiences basic human emotions such as, sadness, happiness, anxiety, stress, or tiredness. When falling into negative feelings, not all mothers feel easy to overcome them, even such feelings dominate their daily life and thinking. Of course, these feelings will affect the atmosphere of her family in general and affect the comprehensive development of the baby, especially its emotions. We have found out the specific results as follows: - When mothers receive their baby from the doctor for the first time, hold the baby in their warm arms, or see their “little angel” in person, they can't help feeling extremely moved which is hard to say in words. They are emotional experiences and wonderful moments that the mothers have never experienced in their life. In particular, such feelings become more wonderful to the mothers who have many difficulties in this delivery. - In most cases, sickness of the baby makes the mother most worried and distressed. This is the greatest concern of mothers because they always expect their baby to be healthy. A healthy baby will be mothers' joy and happiness. When the baby gets sick, the mothers cannot avoid worry and sadness as their love for the baby is boundless. Then, how do they overcome such feelings? Most mothers are calm and confident to give thoughtful care to their baby child in many different ways so that their baby can get better soon. They take their baby to see the doctor, ask experienced people for experience, learn information on mass media, or seek advice from their friends and surrounding people. However, some mothers who fall into this case have become too stressed when their baby is sick. They do not know what to do and completely rely on others or relatives to look after their baby because they become confused and do not know how to handle the case. - There are changes in the relationship between the mothers and their husbands in two trends: the husband-wife relationship becomes closer and they become happier or they become more estranged and cooler than before. The study result indicates that in most cases, after the first baby is born, the conflicts and tensions between the wife and husband are two times higher than the previous time whether they are happier. - There are changes and in the relationship between the mothers and their mother-in-law, and more conflicts occur during this time. This is mainly due to dissent in raising the baby. Some conflicts are easy to be resolved, but some make their relationship become quite stressful. The mothers always expect their mother-in-law to understand, share work with them, and respect them more. In general, in their first delivery, the mothers feel surprised, have psychological changes, such as sudden happiness or sadness, or sometimes become easy to sad and moved. Sometimes, they become more patient, angry, thoughtful, or irritated for no reason. However, there is one thing that is shared by most mothers is that after giving the first baby, they love and respect their parents more. They pervade the love and great services of their parents. Only when we have baby, we know the parents' heart.
